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American Woman's Question of Indian Men
This question came from a visitor to the website. Please leave your comments below..
I have two questions in regard to Indian men: Is it really true that Indian men care about their bride's complexion? I'm not Indian and when I heard that dark indian women have a hard time finding spouses, my heart went out to them and I was furious on their behalf. After all, don't most Indians have deep, rich skin tones? I hope it only applies to some Indian men -- like the light-skinned ones -- and not all.
As a side note, I believe Anchal Joseph (who would be considered "dark" I guess) from America's Next Top Model is simply stunning! If indian men are put off by that, that's just plain insanity ! Or is there a barometer of accepted dark skin tones, from latte to cinnamon for instance, but dark chocolate would be rejected?
Question # 2. Is interracial marriage still taboo? Or are marriages with whites tolerated but not with other races such as Far East Asians, Hispanics or Blacks?
Please reply, I'm really interested in the answers.
-- Geena |
My Response
Thanks for the question. I think it is safe to say that traditional indian men put a preference for lighter skinned ladies. But the same is true for the traditional women having a preference for lighter skinned men. The thing about India is that it has been a poor country for a while. There is still a huge barrier between rich and poor. And those with the least money are the ones working in the field, driving rickshaws, etc.. And as a result are more tanned, much darker. Therefore there is this attribution that darkness means poor means ugly. Back in the days in the United States, the same held true for African Americans having preferences for lighter skinned individuals generally being the ones that had mixed with whites.
To prove my point, the traditional Indian men have a preference for plumper women, not the skinny Anchal type whose pictures you forwarded. And again, this is attributed to the same concept that the more money you have means the more you have to eat and therefore means the more meat that will be on your bones.
I have not seen any famous Indian actress as dark as Anchal nor have I seen any actress as skinny as her either.
With regards to the modern Indian man, things are changing with respect to weight. People are starting to prefer the more skinnier women. Girls on the dating sites are always trying to attribute themselves as being "slim". But the fascination with lighter skinned women is still very pervasive but I would not venture off as to say that they are having trouble getting married. Not all the guys are going for the very light skinned girls but I would be so bold to say most Indian men want a girl that is at the least lighter skinned than they are. Personally, I have no preference either way.
Your next question was about interracial marriages. This is interesting because there are different answers depending on where you live. For example in India, the majority of Indians try to marry people from the same culture. As an American (if that's what you are) a majority of people assume all Indians are lumped into one category. But Indians are self-destructive in that they associate themselves with a language and ethnic background such as Bengali, Gujarati, Punjabi, Tamil, etc. And it is outside of the norm for say, a Bengali to marry a Gujarati. Outside of India that is more acceptable because in any given city there may not be a Bengali to choose from. For example, I am a Bengali and I have only met 3-4 Bengali girls in my life, the choices are so limited that Indian parents give up on that "requirement". Things are slowing changing in the world scene in that it would be okay to marry outside of the race. As it is with most asian cultures, it is more socially acceptable to marry any other asian race. Then more loosely someone that is caucasian. There are still taboos against Hispanics and Blacks. You can use South Africa and Trinidad and Tobago as classic example. Both countries have huge black and Indian populations for many years that have not intermixed.
Anyways, I am in no way an expert, just telling you what I have observed. Let me know if there is anything else you would be interested in learning about. This has piqued my interest and I am tempted to put up a forum on this subject as well as a few others. |
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