Read This If You Are Looking for a Modern Indian Man

7/24/08

For the modern Indian woman, being married to a traditional Indian man is like prison... They think and act in a very traditional way... i.e. demanding a lot of housework to be done by their wives yet doing very little themselves... as well as being too proud to admit they are wrong and/or be questioned by their wives. Meaning that these men expect things to be done their way even though their way may be wrong.

Traditional men are also not very apt to discussing their feelings but rather, in general, tend to express it through anger... And in some unfortunate cases, violence.

As a drastic measure.. some modern Indian women go as far as to say "I am never going to marry an Indian man.." just as the modern Indian men say with regards to not wanting a traditional Indian woman.

But it does not have to be that way. Shaadi.com is the bridge between a traditional arranged indian marriage to that of the modern day love marriage. It is a vehicle that allows you to speak to a countless number of people from the opposite sex and find a connection.

Joining shaadi.com is not enough though because you will still be blasted with guys from all over the modernity spectrum... But as a man, I have a sense for how guys would respond to different questions and feel confident that I can give you the tips necessary to find your modern Indian man :-)

Questioning the Guy

The first thing you can do is question the guy. Why do you like that? What do you think of that? A traditional Indian man may feel threatened by an inquisitve woman. You also get a sense of how together the individual is. If he says he likes his job but can't tell you why then there is something definitely wrong with his wiring and you are not going to want to continue with this guy.

When He is Wrong

Don't be afraid to point out the guy's mistakes.. Just don't be so incessant that he thinks you just love to torment him. If he likes to have a dialogue with you about it.. then it is good. But if he reacts in such a way that he cannot believe you are questioning him, watch out.

Pose Some Theoreticals

Traditional men and women fall into very formulaic routines and predictable schedules. They take a job, live in a certain location, and participate in activities that are pretty much expected of them. They hardly travel outside of the formulaic box that entraps them. In living like that, they take out a lot of the variables in their lives and are thus very bad at dealing with surprises. Now if you pose theoreticals that force them to think... they may not be able to handle that. And you'd likely get a negative response back like "we are not a match"... And heck, you'd be happy.

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