by Taylor Tian (4/25/06)
"What Are You Waiting For?"
You may find comfort in knowing you are not the only single person in the world. As a matter of fact, with the marriage age going up each year, there are more single people than ever! So, when you hear your friends and family screaming “What are you waiting for?” you shouldn’t worry. The likely reason they are harping about the issue of marriage is because they are married and want you to be like them. Sure, they may say they only want you to be happy, but there is no reason an adult can’t be happy being single as well.
Remember that the most important thing is to make sure you wait for the person who you really want to spend the rest of your life with. You should wait until you are ready to get married as well. Even if are in a relationship and think he or she may be “the one”, you should wait until you both are comfortable with being married.
When your friends and family ask why you are waiting so long to get married, remind them of the current divorce rate in the world. Tell them that unlike the negative statistics, you want to be sure you are giving your future marriage the best chance to last. By waiting until you are fully prepared, you cannot guarantee your marriage will last forever, but you can be doing your part to be sure you are starting with the best intentions.
"No Guy Wants a Girl in Her 30s!"
If single women over 30 had a dime for every time they heard this from their oldest living relative, they might be rich! Although your older relatives might sincerely think this to be true, it is not. While many singles choose to get married before they are 30, there are thousands who wait until their mid 30s to tie the not. Those who are working toward their second marriage may be even older than 30 when they remarry. So, you can see that no matter how old you are, there are other singles out there that are your age or older.
The old relatives that love to make you feel horrible about your age and being single are only trying to get under your skin. So the best thing you can do to offset their negative efforts is to address them head on with the truth. Tell them that you are an independent woman who knows what she wants and won’t settle for less like they did. This will be enough to get them off your back for a while.
Hearing people say things like no one wants a woman over 30 can really reduce your own self esteem. Just know that just because you are single at 30 does not mean you will be single forever. It simply means you are still waiting for the right man to come along.
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