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Friend Zone - Common Dilemma

Do not confuse the "friend zone" with "end zone" because you WANT to be in the end zone and NEVER want to be in the friend zone. As a man, once you are in a woman's friend zone, you will almost never leave it. It is common for a woman to perceive a man as a lover but then place him in the friend zone when she is not interested.

So how does it happen?

You meet a girl through Shaadi.com and you think things are great. You chat about life and your futures but somehow you turned into a possible lover into a friend. This typically happens because she found a trait in you that she feels does not make for an ideal life partner. Maybe you are too angry. Maybe you are not a flexible person. Maybe you are a work-a-holic. Maybe you are either too cheap or very loose with money.

There are a lot of people on Shaadi and it is easy for people to be very picky and get away with it. Girls from very high populated areas will, on the average, get anywhere from 3-10 contacts a day.

Women look more for personality traits than do men. And the women on shaadi are serious about a life partner but if they find something about you that does not mesh well then you are going to be sitting on and stuck in the friend zone.

How do you know where you stand?

From personal experience, it is not always easy to tell that a girl no longer sees you as a potential mate. Talking as a friend can be the same as when you are talking as a potential lover. Sometimes when you get to know someone well, you do not want to halt all communications so these women will continue to talk to you.

But we do notice from women is that they start dropping hints. They tell you that "you are such a great friend" and that "friends like you are so cool". They make a point of mentioning what a great friend you are. Women do not speak to their lovers like that.

Advice for men in the friend zone

I implore all you guys to stop pursuing your female friend. It will only bring you heartache and failed results. Sure, it is worth a try. Sometimes a girl can fall in love with you from having gotten to know you. But once you have tried, a failed attempt will only result in more other failures.

The ABCD Exception

Many young Indians keep around many friends that you view as potential mates. The reason for this is because you fear being asked to get arranged so with a bunch of potential mate friends, you can end up with a life long partner. Our society is one of a few societies that value friendship and compatibility as the basis of a loving relationship and marriage.

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