Have More Confidence as a Woman or Man - Conversing with Self Confidence

8/15/08

It is amazing that many people unknowingly develop bad behavior as they grow older. Here I mean attitude and beliefs that involve regular interaction with females and our own esteem. These beliefs and attitude is learned unconsciously most of the time. Gradually, we start taking them as granted. I am talking about statements like:

• I am not so good looking for a girl to approach me.
• I am too fat. I cannot do it.
• What if she says….
• I cannot talk to girls because when I try to, my brain goes numb/ I am too nervous.

The list is endless but these are a few examples of beliefs linger around and stop us from success. This has to be stopped and we must start thinking positively for things to be changed around us. I know it Is pretty easy to state that but quite hard to bring into practice.

But I strongly believe that it is possible.

I have seen hundreds of guys scared to approach women for getting their numbers. Believe me! They seem to be scared to death sometime. What I believe is that it is one’s behavior that stops him approaching women with confidence. So, how do I change my behavior?

Well, behavior can be changed. It is just a matter of a series of action that must occur for a behavior to change. Do you remember the last time you felt rejected by a woman? It occurred for a number of times in your life and that is how you associated a fear of approaching with your behavior.

To change this, a series of events must occur, i.e. you need to approach women, start talking to them comfortably, without any rejection, and that too, a number of times. Once you are successful a number of times, your fear of approaching women will go forever.

The best strategy will be to start approaching women and talking to them casually. Initially, just approach them, talk about regular things, and remember to smile. This will give you some confidence with approaching women.

Next step will be to learn how to ask them out for a date or ask their phone numbers. When you are comfortable, use a positive language, never forget to smile, and use a good opener. Do not use a pick up line. Say anything that sounds positive and confident. For example you can say like, “Hey, I was wondering if we could talk sometime. I Think I will be great. Do you have an email id or a number I can reach you at?” 

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